A Courageous Beauty Interview: Mrs. Alaska America 2009-Erika Bennett

Angie: What interested you in pageants?


Erika: When I was nine years old my mother was Mrs. Alaska-America 1980, that left a lasting impression on me.  She proceeded to become involved with the Miss Alaska scholarship pageant system for many years after that and also opened a talent agency in Alaska.  I saw the good that can come out of pageants and know they can be fun, so I entered a few teen pageants (didn’t win any). 

Angie: What is your platform?


Erika: I don’t have a specific platform per se, but I am interested in promoting fitness in the family and also am very involved in aviation advocacy in Alaska.


Angie: How do you build your platform and promote your work?


Erika: My interests are fueled by my passions.  I feel that the more active the family is, the healthier the nation becomes.  We need to teach our kids that exercise is a normal everyday part of life and can be really fun if you take the right approach.  I am interested in partnering with the YMCA and the National Park Service to help engage more families in outdoor activities and educate parents on how to integrate exercise (disguised as fun) into their daily routines. 

My passion for aviation stems from my career as a professional pilot.  I am on the board of directors of the Alaska Airmen’s Association, a non-profit aviation advocacy group that promotes, protects and educates about general aviation issues in Alaska (a state that relies heavily on air travel to access its lands).  www.alaskaairmen.org


Angie: Why did you decide to compete?


Erika: I competed for Mrs. Alaska-America three times.  I think the main reason I tried the first time was because of my mother.  Each time I had so much fun and really had a chance to focus on myself for a change that I ran again.  This year (2009) I competed mainly to help “force” me to get back into my pre-baby shape and allow myself some “me time” after having my daughter.


Angie: How do you handle stage fright?


Erika: I have been in front of large groups of people either for a theater production or pageant for nearly twenty years now and have not had a hard time doing it.  I think my mother had something to do with my being so confident on stage, as she encouraged me and helped coach me for monologues or recitals.


Angie: What personal fear did you have to overcome? 


Erika: My biggest fear was always not remembering a line on stage for a play or missing a dance step for a pageant.  But when I realized that the audience only knows when you’ve messed up when you show it, I quickly became good at improvising when I got tripped up.  I am a fanatic “rehearser” though, so I have a tendency to remember what I’m supposed to be doing rather than not.


Angie: What did you have to learn to compete?


Erika: Dancing in four-inch high heels was a bit of a challenge when I did my first Mrs. Alaska-America pageant, but I think that’s the case for everyone except professional dancers.


Angie: Please tell us about a goal, why it's been a goal, and what it means to you?


Erika: A goal of mine is to be less “wound up” about things when they go a different direction than I had planned.  It’s been a goal because I realize that when I learn to “go with the flow” things usually turn out the way I’d hoped anyway.  Being able to devote less energy towards stress and more to enjoying life means a happier everyday existence for me!


Angie: Who do you most want to emulate?


Erika: I really admire Barbara Washburn, wife of the late Bradford Washburn.  Barbara was a devoted mother of three and still managed to find time to travel and climb with her adventurous husband.


Angie: Do you have a mentor?


Erika: I don’t have a single person I could call my mentor, but rather a cadre of people who I can go to when I need advice or help.  My mother and father are at the top of the list.


Angie: How do you handle the feelings of disappointment?


Erika: Whenever I feel disappointed, I usually have little time to wallow in my feeling because of the busy life I seem to lead.  I have a loving, cheerful and happy little girl who always makes me smile and a supportive husband who can pull me out of a funk with just his smile.  I am a very fortunate lady.


Angie: What kind of an education do you have or are you pursuing? 


Erika: I hold a bachelors’ degree in journalism and public communication with a minor in anthropology.  I became a professional pilot about four years after obtaining my degree through self-study and private training.


Angie: Do you have other creative talents you pursue?


Erika: I am an avid outdoorswoman who likes to climb, ski and enjoy the wilderness with my husband and daughter.


Angie: Do you think it is important for a person to look their best?


Erika: I feel that when a person is directly representing something or is in a position to be a public role model, then that person should put the effort in to be well groomed and look as good as they can for whatever the occasion may be.  I also feel that anyone should be able to throw a pair of comfy sweats on, put their hair up in a ponytail and go out with no makeup and not be criticized for it either.


Angie: Would you share about your fashion favorites, flair, or a tip that makes you feel beautiful?


Erika:  My advice to feel beautiful is to stick with being yourself and don’t attempt to be someone you’re not – even if it seems as if the rest of the world is telling you differently.


Angie: What compliment do you receive most often?


Erika: Physically I am complimented on my eye color the most.  I inherited very blue eyes from my father.  Otherwise I get compliments on my ability to organize the most.


Angie: What are you most confident about?


Erika: I’m most confident about my ability to handle any situation, good or not so good, and to make the most correct decision at the time that I know of.


Angie: How did you earn that sense of confidence?


Erika: I have to have that kind of confidence as a professional pilot, because everyone on my airplane entrusts his or her life to me for the duration of the flight.  You earn confidence as a pilot through training and experience and then you can apply that confidence to the rest of your life.


Angie: What would you like to share with interview readers?


Erika: If you’d like to read more about my exploits as Mrs. Alaska-America 2009, go to www.mrsalaska09.blogspot.com.

Angie: What a fun and unique interview! Thank you so much for being with us today, Erika.

A Courageous Beauties Interview: Mrs. Ohio International 2009- Lindsey Gregg

Angie: I am honored to share my new friend, Lindsey Gregg, with you today. She's a very kind and sincere woman with an important cause. I pray her cause gains huge leaps forward and they are able to find a cure! Please enjoy learning more about Lindsey and her work :-)

Angie: How did you learn about this pageant?

Lindsey: I was approached by a former contestant who told me that she thought I would be a perfect fit for the International system because of my extensive work with the non-profit organization, DebRA of America and epidermolysis bullosa, a genetic disease involving the skin and mucus membranes.

Angie: What titles have you held?

Lindsey: Mrs. Ohio International 2009

Angie: What is your platform?

Lindsey: Epidermolysis Bullosa, Hard to Say, Easy to Learn About! (www.debra.org)

Angie: How did you build your platform and promote your work?

Lindsey: My family and I live our platform daily.  In 2003, our son was born with a disease we knew nothing about, or even how to pronounce.  Epidermolysis bullosa, or EB is a genetic disease that affects the soft tissue and mucus membranes causing blistering inside and outside the body.  There is no cure for EB except daily wound care and bandaging.  

My husband and I work daily to raise awareness about EB and to raise research dollars in hopes that a cure can be found for all EB children, including our son Maxx.  I am currently the spokesperson for the national research foundation, DebRA of America who offers support, dressing needs, medical advice to EB families.

Angie: Why did you decide to compete?

Lindsey: I decided to compete for my son Maxx and all others living with EB.

Angie: What keeps/kept you competing?

Lindsey: Knowing the fact that I get to talk to others about EB and raise awareness for this rare disease.

Angie: Was/is competition scary?

Lindsey: Competition is definitely a scary feeling, but I would have to say it is more of an invigorating feeling to be able to step outside your comfort zone for an evening and become focused, poised, and ready to do your absolute best!

Angie: What personal fears did you have to overcome? 

Lindsey: The interview process was a personal fear of mine.  I am a very outgoing person and find it easy to start a conversation with others, however it is extremely hard to sit down with a judge one-on-one for only five-minutes and get the key points across that you want to discuss.  

Angie: I so understand. Natural conversations are easy. Interviews aren't organic like a natural conversation. What did you have to learn to compete?

Lindsey: I don’t know if I had to necessarily learn anything, but I definitely had to stay focused on my reasons for competing.  Sure, I had to learn how to walk for different phases of on-stage competition, but in the end I needed to be sure that my reasons for being on that stage were the right ones.  Everything else just falls into place after that!

Angie: Tell us about what you were able to do with your title:

Lindsey: In the past year I have traveled to all parts of Ohio, and a half-dozen other states to raise awareness for EB and DebRA of America as Mrs. Ohio International.  My most memorable event was New York for the national fundraiser for DebRA of America.  I was able to meet Will Ferrill, Mats Wilander, and Roger Waters.  The event brings in close to a half of a million dollars for research and education for EB.

Angie: Please tell us about a dream, why it's been a goal, and what it means to you?

Lindsey: A dream of mine was to become a school teacher.  I am the first person in my family to graduate from college.  This was a goal of mine going into high school, and I achieved that and much more.  I have now been teaching for ten years, have a master’s degree and was awarded teacher of the year by my school district.  

Angie: What do you still want to achieve?

Lindsey: I would like to continue achieving successful fundraising for DebRA of America through my efforts with my family and son by my side.  To date, we have helped contribute over $25,000 to DebRA of America.

Angie: Do you believe you can achieve it?

Lindsey: I know that I can achieve this goal.  With my family by my side, anything is possible!

Angie: What tips would you give other women wanting to enter the pageant world?

Lindsey: Be yourself!  Stay focused on your reasons for competing!

Angie: Do you do a lot of public speaking?

Lindsey: Any chance I can get to raise awareness about EB, I will take it!  I would say on average, I speak to a group at least once a month about the importance of raising awareness and funds for EB.


Angie: Do you have other creative talents you pursue?

Lindsey: I enjoying sewing and teaching aerobics at the YMCA.

Angie: Is it important for a person to look their best?

Lindsey: I don’t know if it is “important”, but I know that when I look my best, I feel my best!


Angie: What do you hope you achieved with your titles long term?

Lindsey: I hope that ten years from now people will still be talking about this small town girl and her big ideas of fundraising and educational awareness for a devastating disease…and how it has paid off!

Angie: Will you compete again?

Lindsey: I hope that the opportunity presents itself again, I have had a blast!

Angie: Would you share about your fashion favorites, flair, or a tip that makes you feel beautiful?

Lindsey: I am addicted to jeans!  A great fitting pair of jeans is such an amazing feeling!  I can feel comfy with my flats and faded out jeans, or sexy with a pair of stilettos and low slung jeans!  It’s all in the style!


Angie: What compliment do you receive most often?

Lindsey: I would have to say my shoulders.  People are always telling me that my shoulders and arms look great!  It is my favorite body part to work-out!

Angie: Do you accept compliments well?

Lindsey: I do!  I love the fact that people can compliment others.  It reminds me that I need to pay it forward!

Angie: How does a woman accept a compliment gracefully?

Lindsey: A simple “thank you” and a great smile!

Angie: What are you most confident about?

Lindsey: Telling others how I feel, good and bad!

Angie: How did you earn that sense of confidence?

Lindsey: My mother…she once told me to be a leader and to disregard jelousy!  I still believe this today!

Angie: What would you like to share?

Lindsey: My family’s ultimate goal is to spread as much awareness as possible for this devastating disease.  There is no cure for EB, but we feel confident that spreading awareness and advocating for the research foundation is the key to finding a cure.  Epidermoysis Bullosa is hard to say, but it is very easy to learn about!

Angie: Please share your websites, blogs, and any other places readers can connect or learn more about you and your work:

Lindsey:
www.ebawareness.org
www.debra.org
www.mrsohiointernational2009.blogspot.com

Angie: Thank you, Lindsey, for interviewing with me. I'm deeply touched and hope the cure and better treatment options are found very soon!

Courageous Beauties Interview Update

Hi all,

I have had a delay in getting a couple of the queen's interviews. Not their fault, just in the communication between lots of individuals. Coordinating is seriously complicated sometimes. So we're going to work on an ask a judge project for the next day or two.

These ladies are all wonderful and have very busy schedules. So I'm going to extend the interviews into December so that we do have all 30 as promised.

On top of that, I've been granted access to a few pageant judges!!! I'm going to send out some emails to those lovely people and ask a few pertinent questions on how they view or recognize confidence and courage. I also want to know some of the thought process it takes to make such hard decisions. I have a lot of respect for these folks.

I would love to know how they can hone in on the right lady for the job. How do they recognize who stands out in such a distinguished crowd of amazing women? I want to ask a judge! Seriously! I know how incredible the women were in my pageant competitions. I felt astonished to be among them.

So if you could ask a pageant judge questions on how they make their decisions or on anything else, what would it be?

As long as questions are appropriate to the interview, I'll ask and see how they respond.

Post your questions here in the comments.

If you could ask a pageant judge anything, what would it be?

Angie

Slight Deviation to Courageous Beauty Interviews

Hi all,


I hope you won't mind a short intermission from our interviews. We've had a scheduling conflict with getting a couple back. I'll post as soon as we are able. In the meantime, I hope you'll enjoy a sample of platform building while we wait.

Mrs. International pageant contestants in Chicago, July 2009.

I began interviewing the people that know how to build a platform best this month because I'm writing a book called Courageous Beauty. All about confidence, courage and inner beauty. 

I know it might sound strange, but the people who know best how to build a public platform?

Beauty queens. 

They have it down! In order to compete for those titles, their platform must be so solid and focused that there is no doubt who they are and the work they do. 

A beauty queen brands herself, creates an elevator pitch, back cover blurb (actually a 60 second speech about who she is and what she does), as well as learns to interview exceptionally well about her product...herself as a brand. She is required to turn in a Bio Sheet that is really a one sheet for the judges to look over prior to the interview. Which, by the way, is timed and 4-5 minutes (depending on the pageant) with each judge. She must impress each judge in 1/3 the time an author has with an editor or agent! She must impress ALL the judges or not win. So it's speed dating on steroids with the publisher committee meeting acceptance or rejection without the benefit of an agent or champion in the committee room.

I was so stunned at the results that I began posting them. I'm going to begin interviewing pageant judges this week so I can start posting those in the next few weeks. What stands out to them? With speed dating as the form of interview, how can they even begin to choose between contestants? What could you say about your support work outside of your book and then about your book in 4-5 minutes that would sell it?

I'm just stunned at what I'm learning from them all. Believe deeply in what you do and you cannot help but talk about it everywhere.

I don't think you can learn about building a platform watching a pageant on television, but I do think you can understand how to build a solid expert platform in following a beauty queen through her interviews, appearances, getting to know her work behind the scenes, etc. It's nothing short of spectacular. They pick something very emotionally seated and go after that area with gusto for years. Targeted and focused, these women change laws, speak to audiences all over the world, and raise funds for programs they believe in through countless hours of community service. 

They learn the issue inside and out. They'll do hundreds of appearances that they've booked themselves (contrary to popular opinion, beauty queens do not have teams of publicists working in the background to get them bookings.) They create their platform themselves by amassing speaking opportunities. 

That is what an author needs to do. Be willing to learn. Be willing to start. Be creative about where and how to get your name out there.

What does a beauty queen know that authors need to know?

Make the phone calls to book the speaking opportunity yourself.

Ask what they are looking for before you tell them what you will do so you can tweak it to meet their audience need.

Look for opportunity at every single public event you attend.

Ask for business cards and contact information in order to make a speaking request and follow up immediately.

Carry your card and hand it out.

Share what you believe in when asked and how you are living it out in your daily life. Inspire them to do the same. They will want you to speak to their group and invite people to meet you.

Be interested in helping other people with what you know.

Be "on stage" and professional everywhere so people will trust your behavior.

Dress professionally for your position.

Be passionate about the issues you represent.

Smile, smile, smile, smile, smile because you make people glad to be in your presence.

Use your experiences, good and bad, to change the community around you through being an active volunteer. It's fulfilling and the gravy is an incredible network.

Hire a personal coach or join Toastmasters or both. 

If hiring a coach isn't in your budget, look for ways to find a mentor and actually ask someone to mentor you. (I did this in addition to coaching and Toastmasters.)

Begin building your platform immediately so it will pay off down the road.

Send out proposals to be a speaker.

Book in advance. You cannot wait until the book is nearly on the shelf. Build that resume'.

Realize it's a numbers game. Not everyone will book you to speak or appear at an event. But enough will. Impress enough and the bookings come faster and easier.

That's the short list :-) No one can run out and do all of these all at once. You build on the skills and build the platform into your daily schedule. You cannot suddenly, overnight have the platform. It's built over time by purposeful action aimed at what you are passionate about and hold dear. It comes out in your writing, speaking, expression. 

I am a Weight Watchers Ambassador. I never applied for the position. I had to first spend 8 months losing weight, learning, gaining experience. Then I worked for them locally for a year. Then I began building a platform for competing in pageants in order to get a bigger voice in the vast world. From that, Weight Watchers offered me the opportunity to speak for them sometimes on television and at events.

What I'm saying is that you have likely been building your platform, you just haven't formally recognized it.

Where do you volunteer? What do you get asked to do? What's your job? What is a recurring theme in your writing?

Think about the last year or two or five. Write down the places you've been unwittingly building your platform. Now go do it on purpose and continue to build that "resume'".

Angie Breidenbach

http://GodUsesBrokenVessels.blogspot.com

http://www.MyGemofWisdom.com

A Courageous Beauty Interview: Mrs. New York International 2009-Lidia Szczepanowski-Goldsmith

Angie: I had the honor of meeting this brilliant lady in Chicago. She's got personality plus and a huge heart that shows in every expression on her face.

May I introduce to you, Lidia Szczepanowski-Goldsmith!

Angie: What titles have you held?


Lidia: In 2006 I won the title of Mrs. New York America and I was a Top 12 Semi-Finalist at the Mrs. America Pageant.  I was also crowned Mrs. New York International in 2009. 

Angie: How did you learn about pageants?


Lidia: I entered the Mrs. New York America pageant in late 2005 after I “Googled” the phrase “Mrs. New York” on the internet.    The rest is history.

Angie: What is your platform?
Lidia: Women’s Safety Awareness

Angie: How do you build your platform and promote your work?


Lidia: In May 2007, Everything Lidia, Incorporated, formerly known as Stylish Safety, Inc., a company I founded, launched a nationwide campaign designed to benefit victims of crimes throughout the United States. The campaign, known as "Listen for the Whistle" consists of two parts - an innovative women's safety program and the promotion and sale of the "Diva’s Crystal Whistle," a designer brass whistle beautifully bejeweled with genuine European crystals attached to a soft black cord. 


The "Diva’s Crystal Whistle,” the symbol of this women's safety awareness campaign, is an invaluable yet simple safety device that is both functional and fashionable. As a visual and audible crime deterrent, women of all ages are urged to “Carry” the whistle, “Use” the whistle, and "Listen for the Whistle." The campaign advocates the notion that the sound of a whistle means that somebody nearby may need help.  A portion of the proceeds from Stylish Safety seminars and from the sale of every Diva’s Crystal Whistle is donated directly to the National Organization for Women’s Safety Awareness, Inc.

Referred to by Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger as "a fresh and unique approach to a very important issue," the goal of the "Listen for the Whistle" campaign is to promote women's safety awareness and educate women on how to maintain their personal safety while raising money for this important cause. 

Featured on numerous media outlets, the “Listen for the Whistle” campaign is also supported by U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton, who commended me "for [my] dedicated effort to educate women with defensive tactics that build confidence among women."

In November 2007, I founded the National Organization for Women’s Safety Awareness, Inc., (the NOWSA) a non-profit corporation (IRS 501(c)(3)) registered with the New York State Attorney General’s Office, Charities Bureau. The organization was established to fulfill a fundamental need in our country to provide more information, awareness, and knowledge about women's safety issues.

I have also volunteered my time speaking to young women at the Coalition Against Child Abuse and Neglect, the Girl Scouts, and many other non-profit organizations and other women’s groups such as the Long Island Women’s Agenda, Long Island Women in Power, and the Women’s Financial Network. I am active with “Project Safe Neighborhood” through the Nassau County District Attorney’s Office, New York State’s Operation Safe Child, and I was invited to be a Conference Mentor at the Guardian Girls Going Places Entrepreneurship Conference. 

In April 2008, I received the prestigious “Prevention Through Education Award” from Child Abuse Prevention Services, one of Long Island's leading organizations dedicated to preventing child abuse and neglect and in October 2008, I was an Honoree at “About Face 2008: Making Changes,” an annual Long Island benefit for survivors of domestic violence, where I received an award acknowledging my ongoing commitment to improving the lives of women.  In June 2009 I was presented with the "Making a Difference for Women" Award by Soroptimist International of Nassau County.


Today, I continue to offer “Stylish Safety” Women’s Safety Awareness seminars to educational institutions and corporations throughout the country.

Angie: Why did you decide to compete?


Lidia: I wanted to have an even “bigger voice” with regard to my platform, Women’s Safety Awareness. I knew that as a title holder I would be afforded significant opportunities to share information about a topic I am so passionate about. I also wanted to exemplify today’s “Modern Day Renaissance Women”, a woman who is intelligent, confident, powerful, athletic, and beautiful; someone who possesses classic grace and someone who is complex and universal.  She has a special presence about her and while she is intriguing and confident, she is not arrogant.  She shines and exudes positive energy wherever she goes.  She’ll walk into a room and everyone will know she’s there.  It’s as if Ms. America just ascended through the door wearing her crown and everyone is wondering, “Who is that tiara donning woman?” 

Angie: Was this your first pageant?


Lidia: No, I also competed and won the title of Mrs. New York America in 2006 and placed in the Top 12 at the Mrs. America Pageant in Tuscon, Arizona. 

Angie: Was/is competition scary?


Lidia: Not at all.  As a litigator, I felt right at home in interviews and on a stage. I have also been presenting “Stylish Safety” Women’s Safety Awareness Seminars for several years now and have spoken to thousands of women on this topic.  I have also made numerous television, radio and other media appearances. 

Angie: What personal fear did you have to overcome?


Lidia: I am typically fearful of only those things that are “unknown” to me and which I have absolutely no control over.  To alleviate any personal fears before competing, I made sure to learn as much as I could about the competition itself and to be as prepared as I possibly could be.  Knowledge truly gives you power.     

Angie: What about your first competition, were you super confident?


Lidia: I wouldn’t say super confident, just confident.   When I competed in my first pageant, I was 41 years old, and pageantry was very new to me.  I think the advantage I may have had over younger contestants was my life experience.   

Angie: What did you have to learn to compete?


Lidia: I needed to curb my enthusiasm a bit and I had to learn how to smile for extended periods of time.

Angie: Please tell us about a goal, why it's been a goal, and what it means to you? 
  
Lidia: Although I am proud to say that I have reached virtually every goal I ever set for myself, I always continue to set new goals just about every day.  One goal in particular is to establish a “YOUTH PERSONAL SAFETY AWARENESS WEEK” in New York State and thereafter in the United States.  I will work through The National Organization for Women’s Safety Awareness together with volunteers, local organizations and politicians and request that New York Governor David A. Paterson proclaim and designate that one specific week of every year be known as “YOUTH PERSONAL SAFETY AWARENESS WEEK”.  


This undertaking will be the first phase of a larger initiative and community education campaign that will be directed at teens in middle and high schools in New York State and eventually throughout the country.  The campaign will 1.) raise awareness about the crimes that are committed against our teens which tragically can lead to injury or even death and 2.) educate teens on how to prevent them.

After a New York model is established, the campaign will encourage every state’s Boards of Regents and/or Trustees to incorporate personal safety awareness into their school’s curriculum via health or physical education classes or otherwise.  “Covers for a Cause”, the NOWSA’s soon to be launched student safety awareness project, which combines youthful contemporary art with relevant safety tips, reminders, information and messages on visually appealing book covers, will be incorporated into “YOUTH PERSONAL SAFETY AWARENESS WEEK” as well.  I hope to accomplish this goal sometime in 2010.  
        
Angie: What do you still want to achieve?


Lidia: Do you have a few hours?  Where do I start?
I want to be the best mother, wife, daughter, sister, and woman I can possibly be while feeling fulfilled and fabulous in my personal and professional life.

Angie: There's an idea in society that pageants are just skin deep. How would you answer that?


Lidia: I would think that any person who makes this kind of statement has never competed in a legitimate pageant.  I had the great fortune of participating in two national “Mrs.” pageant systems and every single contestant I had the privilege of meeting  was truly extraordinary- intelligent, well spoken and beautiful!   I cannot, however, comment on “pageants” in general  because I believe all pageants are not necessarily created equally. 
       
Angie: The media has given Americans the idea that pageant girls/women are not intelligent and accomplished. What kind of an education do you have?


Lidia: I earned my BBA in International Business in 1987 and I received my Juris Doctor (Law Degree) in 1990.

Angie: What's your "day" job?


Lidia: I am a practicing corporate and commercial litigation attorney.  I am also the owner of Everything Lidia, Inc.,  which, among other things, presents Women’ Safety Awareness seminars to educational institutions and corporations and I am the founder and Executive Director of the National Organization for Women’s Safety Awareness, Inc., a 501(c)(3) non-profit.
   
Angie: Do you have other creative talents you pursue?


Lidia: As much as I LOVE to draw and paint, my busy lifestyle does not afford me much time to pursue this passion.  I get my creative juices flowing, however, when I work on my business enterprise, which includes adding to my website, writing articles, and working on creative projects with The NOWSA.  I also LOVE decorating my home, particularly when I find the bargain of the century. 

Angie: Is it important for a person to look their best?


Lidia: People should look their best when they feel the need to put their best foot forward.   This would include, for example, important events, interviews, meetings, etc.  At all other times, a person should wear what makes them feel comfortable.  Personally, I don’t always wear makeup and dress up on weekends but I will not walk out of the house looking like I just rolled out of bed.  In my opinion, this shows a lack of self-respect .       

Angie: What do you hope to achieve with your title long term?


Lidia: I always knew I had a unique and special story to tell; a story that would inspire women of all ages and from all walks of life.  During my reign as Mrs. New York America and Mrs. New York International, I had the privilege of speaking to thousands of women and sharing this story.  I realized that my message was much bigger and more significant than I ever realized and that I had the ability and gift of having a positive impact and influence on women’s lives.  And that’s what I am doing and will continue to do: challenge and inspire women to live safer, more fulfilling and remarkable lives.   
 
Angie: Would you share about your fashion favorites, flair, or a tip that makes you feel beautiful?


Lidia: There are three words that describe my fashion favorite, flair and tip.  “Accessories, accessories, accessories!”  Shoes, jewelry, hosiery, scarves and handbags all have a huge impact on your appearance and how you feel about yourself.  
 
Angie: You've written a book, will you tell us a little about it?


Lidia: I actually wrote a book proposal back in 1995 and it is still a work in progress.  My book will be the first to analyze select qualities which defined the traditional renaissance man and then illustrate to readers how they can apply these traits and characteristics to their own lives to achieve a more fulfilling, successful, intriguing and remarkable living experience.  The book will offer a new perspective on why certain women are fulfilled and admired while challenging readers to strive to acquire or develop these qualities in order to feel a greater sense of self worth and contentment and experience life’s nirvana. The imagery of the “tiara”, which has enhanced the dignity and beauty of women for centuries, will be incorporated into everyday experiences and women will be taught how to get in touch with their “inner sparkle”.   The actionable insights to be provided in the book will be useful, simple, and entertaining and will show women how by developing a confident attitude and well rounded life results in a more remarkable life.

Angie: What compliment do you receive most often?


Lidia: I have been told more than once that I am very approachable and that I exude a ton of positive energy when I walk into a room.  People also tell me often that my passion for life is empowering and that I am “a true inspiration to the female species!”

Angie: What are you most confident about?


Lidia: I am most confident about who and what I am.

Angie: How did you earn that sense of confidence?


Lidia: Over the years, I have recognized my unique talents, skills, and other positive qualities, and I have opened my heart, mind and soul to developing these gifts while challenging myself to take on new experiences and living life to its fullest.  I have recognized the benefits of learning for the sake of learning, and am led by the notion that all knowledge should be embraced and natural capabilities and passions developed as fully as possible.  I earned my sense of confidence by living this philosophy. 
     
Angie: What would you like to share?


Lidia: I have a story to tell and it transcends the message of my platform.  When I was 13 years old, I was sexually assaulted by a relative.  Ironically, although I cannot recall what I ate for dinner last night, I can remember very clearly all the details of an evening that occurred over 30 years ago.  I remember the clothes I was wearing, the type of car I was in, and the smell of booze on my perpetrators breath.  I also remember being too scared and too embarrassed to tell my parents what happened.  I held this secret inside for over 5 years and when I finally did tell my parents, they said they believed me, but I sensed some skepticism especially after my mom and dad told me that he denied everything and said I was “exaggerating.” 

      I had two choices:  I could move forward and perhaps learn something from this, or I could use this incident as a crutch for not succeeding or an excuse if something did not go my way.  I chose to stand proud and confident.  In fact this incident was a catalyst for me to never be a victim again, whether physically, psychologically, financially or otherwise. It also drove me to never settle for second best and I worked that much harder to achieve and surpass my personal goals. I financed my College and Law education, earned a Black Belt in Karate, earned the titles of Mrs. NY America and Mrs. NY International, launched Everything Lidia. Inc. and my “Stylish Safety” seminars, and founded the non-profit women's organization. N.O.W.S.A.   I am currently raising a family, practicing law, and writing a book. Today I am using these achievements to help women be more safe and confident.
     
My “Stylish Safety” seminars are one of my greatest achievements.   Women who attend this seminar do not roll around on a smelly gym mat and learn self defense. What I offer is something very different.  It is a concise program where women attendees receive a realistic and practical education, learn effective yet simple safety tactics and strategies such as the “Stiletto Stomp” and “Hand Bag Hurl” while receiving something that I believe is much more valuable than a black belt -- and that is EMPOWERMENT.  Women walk away from these seminars feeling a greater sense of self esteem and confidence.  They walk out with their shoulders back a little further and their chins up a little higher. 

And I know that these benefits transcend a woman’s life and help her be, not only safer physically, but also make her feel like she can literally “kick butt” in every single aspect of her life! 


I want to continue to share my story, my martial arts acumen and my positive message with women everywhere.   

My websites include www.EverythingLidia.com and www.TheNOWSA.org.


Angie: Very inspiring, Lidia, thank you for being with us today!

A Courageous Beauty Interview: Mrs. Kentucky International 2010-Elaine Barnes Bateman

Angie: Elaine and I met over facebook several months ago. We began a friendship and dialogue about our beliefs and work within our communities and it blossomed. After I competed as Mrs. Montana International 2009 in the Mrs. International pageant, I chatted with Elaine about my experience and to encourage her to join and promote her platform. And she did it! I'm cheering her on in this upcoming competition July 2010!

Elaine, how did you learn about pageants?

Elaine: That is an easy one. I am from Venezuela and pageants are our nation’s national pastime.

Angie: What other titles have you held?

Elaine: I was so busy over the years being a wife and mother – that I never pursued pageant titles until now; as the 2010 Mrs. Kentucky International.

Angie: What is your platform?

Elaine: As an Ambassador for a grass roots organization called, “Mother the World”; our platform is the mentoring and adoption of older youth.

Angie: How did you build your platform and promote your work?

Elaine: I and Deanna Jones, the founder of “Mother the World”, are traveling throughout the commonwealth of Kentucky, specifically, and the United States generally; speaking at various venues such as churches, civic groups, youth ranches and community sponsored charitable events related to my platform – the adoption of older youth.

Angie: Why did you decide to compete?

Elaine: I believe that the “Mrs. International Pageant” best represents the ideals of marriage, family and community. Being a part of this particular pageant brings exposure to the plight of abandoned older youth and the need for individuals and families alike; to come to their aid.

Angie: Is competition scary?

Elaine: I am not “scared” of competing in the “Mrs. International Pageant” because of my desire to expose to the world the plight of abandoned older youth. When the actual competition draws closer, then I might become a little more nervous!

Angie: What personal fears did you have to overcome?

Elaine: Because I am not a veteran of pageant competition, and I am probably one of the oldest contestants, it would seem normal to be a little apprehensive. But then again, living life day-to-day can be that way too.

Angie: What did you have to learn to compete?

Elaine: This may sound silly but learning to walk in public in high heels after spending years chasing my kids around the house and taking care of my husband in track shoes!

Angie: Tell us about what you are able to do with your title.

Elaine: Being the 2010 “Mrs. Kentucky International” has already opened the door for my being able to speak to civic groups and leaders, business owners, and politicians such as the Mayor of my city.

Angie: Please tell us about a dream, why it's been a goal, and what it means to you?

Elaine: I have always had a heart and passion for abandoned children and over the years, have been able to open my home and heart to so many of them! That was always my goal and my calling in this life.

Angie: What do you still want to achieve?

Elaine: Now, as Mrs. Kentucky International – my goal is to encourage others to join my effort to help mother the world by doing what I have already done!

Angie: Do you believe you can achieve it?

Elaine: One of the advantages of being an older contestant is that I have already done what most others dream about. I have already achieved my vision of helping older youth and now, I want to help others become part of my burden for them.

Angie: Why or why not?

Elaine: I believe that my own life testimony visibly shows the potential for young people to rise above their dire situations when an older adult begins making a long term investment in their lives. But, I have no control over the hearer’s heart. That is the individual’s decision to act upon what they have heard, or not, and I have no control over that.

Angie: What tips would you give other women wanting to enter the pageant world?

Elaine: Know who you are and not try to be what others think you should be. When your priorities are in proper order: individual faith in Jesus, love for your husband, family and community then with genuine thankfulness you have already become a winner!

Angie: What kind of an education do you have?

Elaine: My father-in-law used to say, “The most expensive, hardest and longest education you will ever be a part of is the “University of Hard Knocks.” How true, because God says in the Book of Ecclesiastes; “For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge, increases sorrow.” I also spent time at a Christian University but more than three decades as a wife, mother and mentor.

Angie: Do you have other creative talents you pursue?

Elaine: It takes a lot of creativity just to balance life as a wife and mother to a very large adopted family of 22. So, in my spare time, I write for an online Christian women’s magazine, dabble in photography and cook exotic South American dishes Ultimately, I hope to write a book instructing young mothers in the art of baby-raising!

Angie: Is it important for a person to look their best?

Elaine: Yes. My mother taught me a long time ago that, “You never know who you might bump, crash, or run into. Be prepared.” As a wife, I believe that it encourages my husband too.

Angie: I love that you brought your husband into that equation. What do you hope you achieved with your title long term?

Elaine: That other families, exposed to the plight of abandoned older youth, will join me and become mothers to the otherwise motherless.

Angie: Would you share about your fashion favorites, flair, or a tip that makes you feel beautiful?

Elaine: I have always believed that if my hair looked good, everything else will fall into place!

Angie: What compliment do you receive most often?

Elaine: When I am out in public with my daughters, who themselves are in their twenties, I am always asked if I am one of the sisters to the rest of them. At 50 years old, I will take that compliment anytime!

Elaine: My oldest son was once indignant when he was asked whether he was my husband. I never laughed so hard in my life! (After we walked away, of course.) What are you most confident about?

Elaine: I am most confident about my eternal security in Jesus Christ and His never ending love for me. Because of this simple truth within my heart, I know that whatever the outcome of the Mrs. International Pageant, won’t affect who I am as God’s daughter.

Angie: How did you earn that sense of confidence?

Elaine: This confidence that I have is not in anything that I have earned but rather, from what I have learned through God’s promises to me found in His Word.

Angie: What would you like to share?

Elaine: Above everything else in my life, I have determined to know nothing but Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I love my Lord so much – realizing that every pursuit this side of glory can never be compared to the riches of His glory yet to be revealed!

Secondly, I will continue to live my life in such a way that those who observe it – including the younger pageant contestants - will see my love for my husband, my family, and my community-in that order. I want those whom I meet to know that with conviction, perseverance, sacrifice, and hard work they can go beyond dreaming and actually succeed!

Angie: Please share your links so people can get to know you, become more involved with your platform, and connect.

Elaine:
http://mrskentuckyinternational.com
http://elainebateman.org
http://internetcafedevotions.com
http://mothertheworld.org
http://tobeamother.com
http://codybateman.org
I Facebook fanpage http://facebook.com Search for “Mrs. Kentucky International 2010”

Angie: Elaine, I'm so glad there are passionate and faithful women like you in our world! Thanks for being with us today.

A Courageous Beauty Interview: 2009 Beauties of America 50's-Debra Gilmour

Angie: As I was interviewing beauty queens, I asked for referrals for more interviews. Debra was referred as a lady of high standards and a powerful platform. Getting to know her through this interview, I believe you'll agree.


Angie: How did you learn about various pageants?

Debra: I first saw an ad in a magazine with Mrs. America's picture in it. That piqued my interest as I had not been aware of pageants for women aside from Miss America and Miss USA.

Angie: What titles have you held?

Debra: I have held both competitively won and at large titles.  My first title was won in 1988, where I was crowned Mrs. Oregon America.  In 1989 I was selected to represent Oregon at-large as Mrs. Oregon USA International in 1989.  In 2007 I held the at large title of Mrs. Scotland International (my husband and I own property in Scotland where his father was born).  In 2008 I competed for and won the title Mrs. Oregon International.  In 2009 I held the Beauties of America at large title of Oregon's 50s, then competed for and won the national title of 2009 Beauties of America's 50s.

Angie: What a distinguished list! What is your platform?

Debra: Though no platform was required at the time, as a cornea transplant recipient I promoted my personal philanthropic interest of organ and tissue donation during my 1988 and 1989 reigns. 


Over the years additional interests evolved and my platform portfolio from 2007 on also includes alcohol and drug addiction prevention, education and treatment, as well as cardiovascular disease education and research through the American Heart Association, youth support via the Police Activities League, and grief counseling and support through the Dougy Center for Grieving Families.

Angie: How did you build your platform and promote your work?

Debra: As a cornea recipient in 1988 I was asked to be a statewide spokesperson by the Oregon Donor Program.  After winning the Mrs. Oregon pageant, I used my title to give additional visibility to my existing commitments to speak out about organ and tissue donation.

Through the years other philanthropic needs emerged.  As a lobbyist I saw the daily struggle so many organizations go through to support and advance truly important causes.  As a family member I saw people very close to me suffer with addiction, and cardiovascular disease.  Dear friends of mine experienced the loss of their ten year old son from cancer.  

These things change you as a person.  You have two choices; let it consume you, or use that same energy to serve as an advocate for change.  I chose the latter.  

Angie: I agree. I support brain and organ donation and explain the difference between them. When my mother died as a paranoid schizophrenic, I wanted her struggle to have significance. That's why I'm also listed as a brain donor when the time comes. Why did you decide to compete?

Debra: Back in 1988 it looked like a lot of fun, and having grown up in the shadow of the Miss America pageant (I'm a native of New Jersey) it was the fulfillment of a dream.  My interest was reignited in 2007, motivated in large part by the perceptions of attractiveness I personally experienced as a woman who was turning 50.  

Angie: What keeps/kept you competing?

Debra: My desire is to serve as an example to other women who are entering mid-life that the best is yet to come.  We don't have to accept the notion that women over forty, and certainly over fifty, are relegated to a sideline existence in life.  Beauty doesn't have an expiration date.  My goal is to demonstrate that true beauty resonates from the inside to the outside.  As women age they become even more, not less, attractive!

Angie: At 45, I agree! Was/is competition scary?

Debra: Goodness, yes!  Certainly as a fifty plus-year old treading into what was historically a younger woman's domain. 

Angie: What personal fears did you have to overcome? 

Debra: As a younger woman competing in my thirties, I think my biggest fear was that of rejection.  With age comes a wealth of wisdom.  As a woman over fifty my biggest concern was if all my luggage would make to the the hotel on time:-)

Angie: LOL, I so understand! What did you have to learn to compete?

Debra: Early on it was the walking and posing portion of pageantry.  As a more seasoned woman it was recognizing the bias older women face, even among their younger peers and contestants.

Angie: Tell us about what you were able to do with  your titles:

Debra: In the early years as a titleholder I was able to substantially increase the number donor designations on Oregon drivers licenses for those wishing to become organ donors. I was also able to lend a face and name to pageantry for married women in my community.  Very few were aware there even was a Mrs. Oregon until a cover story in Portland's This Week Magazine featuring me as Mrs. Oregon 1988, shed light about the program.  

More currently, the ability to pass key legislation on both a Statehouse and Congressional level in the health care arena addressing addiction and cardiovascular disease, and raise substantial funds in the private sector to fund educational, research, and support services opportunities for my charities.

Angie: Please tell us about a dream, why it's been a goal, and what it means to you?

Debra: My greatest goal is to be the best mother I can to my children (and now grandchildren) and serve as a living example to them throughout my life. I believe we all have an obligation to provide a sturdy foundation for the next generation and leave the world a better place regardless of how big or small the contribution.  That includes accepting the gifts that God gives us, and speaking up when injustice is apparent.

Angie: What do you still want to achieve?

Debra: I would love to accelerate the paradigm shift for women to reach a place in which they appreciate themselves (and each other) to the degree that they no longer feel the need to cut up their bodies with elective, invasive surgical procedures and exterior changes to fit an unrealistic standard of attractiveness.

Angie: Ah, that's definitely important! Do you believe you can achieve it?

Debra: In my world view, I believe that anything is possible!

Angie: Why or why not?

Debra: Because it ultimately comes down to women rejecting the artificial standards set for us.  If we collectively recognize how arbitrary and unnecessary these standards are, we can give voice to reason and focus our attention on the things that really matter.

Angie: Lately, I've seen a lot on the internet challenging the air brushing away or enhancing of body parts. Ladies, don't believe what you see in magazines! What tips would you give other women wanting to enter the pageant world?


Debra: Remain true to yourself, your principles, and intentions.  

Angie: The media has given Americans the idea that pageant girls/women are not intelligent and accomplished. What kind of an education do you have? 

Debra: While I attended college, my current career trajectory as a registered lobbyist and business management executive is not in my original field.  Since so many women with pageantry backgrounds have gone on to highly visible careers in the media, it is somewhat perplexing why that image remains so steadfast.  

When This Week Magazine first covered the news that I was Mrs. Oregon 1988, the reporter made fun of the title and dismissed me as a blowdryer devotee with no substance. I called the reporter and challenged him (in a polite way, of course!) to sit down with me and get to know me, my treat.  

He was stunned I would do such a thing and accepted my challenge.  We met for tea and he soon forgot his preconceived idea of a pageant queen. A few weeks later I was the cover feature of the magazine which detailed my title, as well as my career position (at the time) as a placement director for a dental college.

In my opinion, if pageant queens would advance their resumes along with press releases and challenge in a polite, but firm, way dismissive coverage and remarks, we could certainly make a dent in the media's perception.

Angie: Do you have other creative talents you pursue?

Debra: Turning fifty opened my eyes to how much life there is still left to live (plenty!).  I recently began writing again, and was fortunate to have several articles published including two pieces featured on the website for MORE Magazine's MORE.com.  In late spring I received a request from the editor-in-chief of MORE to go to New York City for a beauty feature for the print version of the magazine.    This in turn opened other writing opportunities and a budding modeling career.

Angie: Congratulations! Is it important for a person to look their best?


Debra: Yes, because it really does impact and reflect the way we feel on the inside.  If you know you are pulled together well, you will radiate that confidence which will be noticed by others, too.  In many cases it can give you the edge you need in a business relationship, or competitive environment.

Angie: What do you hope you achieved with your titles long term?

Debra: My goal is to demonstrate through words and deeds women of all ages have an attractiveness that is uniquely their own.  My current title reflects the mission statement of the Beauties of America program which is, "beauty and accomplishment at every age."  I hope to advance that mission by supporting women in recognizing attractiveness at every stage of life. 

It is my hope that by the time my daughters are my age, the media's standard of a twenty year old's body with a fifty year old's wisdom and experience is all but a memory.

Angie: Will you compete again?


Debra: It is highly doubtful.  I have accomplished the goals I set for myself in the competitive world of pageantry.  I am ready to take the wonderful opportunities afforded me through this process and move on to other areas.

Angie: Would you share about your fashion favorites, flair, or a tip that makes you feel beautiful?


Debra: If I find something that works for me, I usually buy it in at least two colors.  Dresses, even casual ones, make me feel more feminine so if I am having a blah day, I will pull one on and it instantly gives me a boost.    

Angie: What compliment do you receive most often?

Debra: Most often I hear that I don't look my age, or people guess that I am considerably younger than my chronological age.    

Angie: What are you most confident about?

Debra: Regardless of what comes my way, if I am true to myself and my beliefs, I will succeed.     

Angie: How did you earn that sense of confidence?

Debra: Experience.  The wisdom I have at fifty-two permits me to be much more pragmatic and confident about most everything.  In my thirties (when I first won a title) I thought I was confident.  Reflecting back I can see I was predicating much of that confidence on my physical appearance.  If I looked good on the outside, that it equated to confidence.  Age teaches you confidence is all mental and has nothing at all to do with the physical.  

Angie: I bolded Debra's statement because I hope it is something that really stands out! What would you like to share?

Debra: As a member of the largest demographic in the country, mid-lifers (forty-five and up) are in the unique position to change the direction of what the accepted norm for attractiveness truly is.  There is a power that comes with numbers!

I hope many women, particularly those approaching my age embrace the opportunity and refuse to accept arbitrary standards for attractiveness. We can redefine true beauty for what it really is.  This means staying active and not using age as a reason for not shedding those extra pounds, cutting your hair only if you want to not because you reach a certain age, or foregoing putting on makeup because you think it doesn't matter.  

In our forties we have a tendency to want to fight nature.  At fifty, you reach an acceptance that is so empowering.  Let your true beauty show!

Angie: Oh, I'm middle-aged! [Read shocked here.] Lol, I never thought of myself as middle-aged at 45. Well then, Debra, I join your numbers and I refuse to cut my hair. I just don't look good in short styles so why should I? :-) Please share your websites, blogs, and any other places readers can connect or learn more about you and your work:

DebraGilmour.blogspot.com

LinkedIn 

www.DebraGilmour.com (in development stages but should be up soon)

Facebook


Angie: I am just so pleased to have had the opportunity to visit with Debra and hope you have enjoyed it too.